Let me set the stage: I had just gone through an awful break up, and was really hating the fact that I wasn’t in contact with my ex, shamelessly reaching out on social media. Even though I knew the best thing for healing was to stay as far away from his as possible. But I just couldn’t shake it and the more he ignored me, the worse I felt. So my friend Mike stepped in and said this quote to me: “Silence hurts the worst. Thinking that someone doesn’t care at all is a dagger through the heart.” And he was SO right!
I realized that I was feeling so crummy because I wasn’t getting any reaction. What do you want out of someone? A reaction to show you that they care! Just that they give a crap about you at all! And I wasn’t getting that and it was crushing me. Until I turned it around, and “ignored” my ex. And every ex I’ve had since then. Guess how that worked out?
I’m in an awesome and stable and amazing relationship, and I still get calls, messages and emails from exes. All of which I ignore!
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?