I am part of a group of bloggers participating in the #WomensLives campaign, run through BlogHer, and I discovered an interesting story in my research! This lifestyle story titled “The advice that older women have for the young on love, marriage” is so enlightening and contained invaluable advice!
The author made a main point of choosing a spouse: “choose wisely.” This idea is very interesting to me. I am in my 30’s, living with my boyfriend, and surrounded by friends getting engaged or married. I sometimes struggle with the pressure to get engaged and married, and wonder what’s wrong with our relationship that we’re not there yet. This is all pretty silly. We love each other and we’re in a committed relationship. We have fun together, laugh, and make it through tough situations together. Every time I think something that comes our way will “make or break us” it only makes us stronger. We are learning and growing together, and that is truly important to me. And that is a key theme in this article: make sure you’re making the right choice in your spouse.
In our daily lives we’re inundated with social media, making it easy to forget that what we see of others highlights “the best of times.” To me, I want someone who will stand by me through the worst of times, and help me to shine brightly every day in between. I couldn’t agree more that the choices you may make when you’re younger, including that of a spouse, might not be the best for you. Having met my honey at the ripe old age of 29, I still wasn’t 100% sure what I wanted, but I firmly knew what I didn’t want. The stability, companionship, friendship and love that I feel in my relationship makes me realize that I have made the right choice, and that I’m right on track for a happy and healthy marriage. Whenever that day may come.
The article goes on to include advice on choosing the right person for you, and I am loving some of the quotes featured!
“Whether it is an impulsive move, a perceived last-chance leap or a slide into the inevitable, their advice is to stop, look, and listen — to yourself and others.”
“Give it time before you jump in. I could have made a major difference in my life if I had chosen my husband carefully, really gotten to know him before committing to the relationships. Know the person in and out before you get married. You think nowadays that you can get out of it easily, but that’s not always the case.”
“Get to know that person very, very well in all circumstances, the happiness part and the stressful parts. So both people have to be very willing and very open, and often times make concessions, as they get to know each other. So please, take a very serious look. You cannot mold your spouse into something that you want.”
I hope you enjoy this article, and following along with me as I discover even more about #WomensLives.